It Works!

Note to Self:

You're an It Works! Distributor!!

WOW! I am on cloud nine right now at the beginning of my It Works! Adventure. I am beyond excited to start this chapter in my life.

Ok, so you might be wondering what I'm talking about. I'm talking about It Works! Here is a simple description for the company: 

"It Works! is a skin care and nutrition company, named for the excited reaction people have when trying our products—it works! Our products are sold globally through our network of Independent Distributors who work as One Team with One Mission—to change lives! Together, the It Works! family is looking great, getting out of debt, having fun, and giving back to the community."

I just joined as an Independent Distributor! That means I get to share this product with all of you and help you reach the goals that you set for yourself!

I just barely started in this business and I am already so excited. Starting out, I have 3 main goals for myself in this company. 

1) I want to help my husband and I grow more financially stable. I have seen this company do amazing things for people. Many distributors are able to get out of debt in just a few months. My Upline (the person I signed with) just earned a $20,000 bonus and her and her husband and cute son were able to move into a new house! 

I just got married a few months ago. Five months and 12 days to be exact, but who's counting? ;) My husband and I are both full-time college students, working part time jobs, and struggling to pay the bills.  Thats why the first reason I wanted to join this business is to have some extra income just to get rid of some of the stress in our lives. 

2) I have seen the amazing things these products can do and I want to be able to make some of those changes in my life. The most important thing about these products is that it works for you. Whatever your beauty goals are, you can work to achieve them in this company. I had to cut my hair a few months ago because the ends were so bad after bleaching it two years ago. I was so sad to see it go and I miss my long hair! It Works! has a product for that (Hair, Skin, & Nails) and I am so excited to use it! Whether you want healthier hair, to tighten/tone/firm a place on your body, or just to feel healthier, there is a product for you! That's why my second goal in this business is to help myself and others reach our goals, whatever they may be!

3) The third goal I have in this company is quite personal, but I'd love to share it with all of you. I have been shy my whole life. It's become such an integral part of who I am. My friends may beg to differ (I'm not afraid to get crazy when I'm with my besties) but it's true. I am unbearably shy. If you don't talk to me first, there is a 99% chance that I won't strike up a conversation (this goes for new people, not friends that I already have). I am terrified of being surrounded by people I don't know. Not because people, themselves, scare me. Not because I hate people. It's because I'm too scared to talk to any one of them. It's irrational. It's held me back from so much in my life. College has been really hard because every semester I wonder if I'll have the courage to talk to someone and make a friend or if I'll be lucky enough to have someone befriend me. Now, I am ready to change that. 

I am so excited to be a part of this company because it gives me a reason to talk to people, tons and tons of people. If I don't talk to people I will not achieve goals 1 and 2 that I've just told you about. It will push me to step out of my comfort zone which is a good thing! I know that joining this company was my first step in becoming a more confident me and growing as a person. 

So! Those are my reasons for joining it works and becoming an independent distributor! What will your reasons be? I would love to help any and all of you start on your own It Works! Adventure! Whether you want to be a loyal customer or a distributor, I am here to help you ever step of the way! 

Here is my contact information if you would like to learn more about It Works!

My website:

          kennahansen.myitworks.com

My email:

          kennahansen.myadventure@gmail.com

My phone:

          (801) 556-8339 (Call or text) - If I miss your call, leave your information and I will get back to you as soon as I can! 

100% Track Record

Note to Self: 

"Your track record for getting through bad days so far is 100%"

Bad days happen. Sometimes they happen frequently. Lately my definition for a "bad day" has been a day when I feel as if I can't do anything right. Or days when I feel like I can't do everything that I have to. I take a hit to my self esteem and well-being each time I let one of those days get the best of me. But it's so hard not to!

Life can be overwhelming, no matter what your circumstances are. That's life! 

I'm here to tell you, though, that you CAN do it! 

Whenever I have one of these bad days, I think of a quote I came across a few years ago:

I'm not completely sure who to quote for this. I found it on pinterest (I think) without a name. I did a little research and one person says that the author is Rich Bluni. That's the only name I could find, so I'm going to go with it! (Pleas let me know if you know otherwise!)

Now, I said that on bad days I think of this quote. What I should say, instead, is that I TRY to think of this quote. It's easier said than done! Just ask my husband. He'd be sure to tell you that I don't usually just "snap out" of a bad day when I think of this. Really, this quote leads to a certain frame of mind - one that's not necessarily easy to get into. Personally, though, I find this to be easier than just saying to myself "It's going to be OK." 

When people tell me it's going to be OK, I usually don't respond well to it. I know they mean well! And the truth is they're probably right. But can I know that for sure? No. That's why I love this quote so much... because it is true! So far I've made it through 100% of my bad days. And that's awesome! I'm awesome! (Positive self talk also helps to get out of the "bad day" rut. Don't feel bad about telling yourself that you're freaking amazing!) 

Be kind to yourself. Know that bad days happen and that you have, can, and will get through them!

"Adult"

Note to Self: 

You really are an adult now… 

Why did I always think that being an adult would be so fun? Now I just think about how fun it would be to be a kid again! The truth is, I still feel like a kid a lot of the time. People joke about it, but it's so true. I can't count the number of times when I'm in a situation and look around for the "adult" and then realize that it's actually me. I never asked for this responsibility! Who let me be an adult? Haha 

I'm 20 years old so I've been an adult, legally, for about two years now. The truth is I just barely started to feel it at all. Really, the term "adult" is more arbitrary than anything. 

I had a chat with my mom the other day and she told me about something her friend had said. She explained that after looking at pictures from the wedding (I got married in October!) and pictures of me for my birthday (mid-January) she thought I looked much more grown up now. Who knew that getting married would make me an old maid!? 

In reality, there's only a three month difference between the wedding and my birthday. That's not a lot of time to "grow up." I feel as if I really have, though. By now it's been just over four months since the wedding and I do feel like a different person. 

I think there are certain events in your life that will change you more than others. The big events. Graduating, getting married, having a loved one die, moving out. These are just some of the few that have changed me and helped me to "grow up" more quickly during those times. 

At this point, moving to a new place and getting married are the biggest changes I've ever had… and they really happened at the same time. I have grown a lot from these experiences. It's not so much the specific events, but the responsibilities that come with them. I have to learn how to be a wife and homemaker. I have to grow out of my shell and meet knew people. I have to accept that a lot of my friends (especially from high school) are not in the same position as me anymore and we're not going to be able to relate to all the same things. I have many more bills now that I have to pay and more consequences now that it's all on me and my husband instead of always having parents to back us up. I have to be an adult now. 

Being an adult isn't all bad… I get to choose my bed time! Which, if I'm honest, would be before 10 every night if I didn't have work to do. I feel more accomplished as an adult. Sure, I had accomplishments before now, but the "adult" ones seem to have a lot more impact. 

Really, I do feel different than I did even four months ago. I don't know if I see a change in appearance like my mom's friend did, but I'll let you decide on that one.

Wedding day:

Now:

Keep in mind that I had been dreaming about my wedding day for practically my whole life. I felt like a princess that day so I think I probably looked and acted a little more childish than I normal would!

Anyway, the point is that I have changed and grown since I've been married. I think it would have been near impossible not to. I guess now all I have to do is figure out how exactly to be an adult. I'm sure, with time, I'll learn to look, think, and act "adult," but I'm just not sure that that's happened yet! I'll keep you posted ;) 

100 Days of Marriage

Note To Self:

Congratulations! You've made it through 100 days of marriage!

Something about 3-digit numbers make things seem legitimate, you know? Saying, "we've been married for 3 and half months" just doesn't have the same ring to it as, "we've been married for 100 days." So… yay! We've been married for 100 days! 

I'm sure people who have been married for years would laugh at being proud of only 100 days. Really, it's not a lot of time. It's what happens in those 100 days that really matters. I've learned more about my husband in the last 100 days than I think I did in the entire 365 days before that. I'm sure he's learned just as much about me. It's insane!

I've learned that when he says we're out of butter, there's probably still a full stick of butter left in the fridge. I've learned that his bedtime is typically way later than mine is. I've learned that chips and salsa is always the answer to "what do you want to eat?".

He's learned that when I say "No, I don't need to shower. I haven't gone to the gym and my hair still looks good" I mean that I am really not going to take a shower. I don't eat Ramen like soup, I drain most of the water so it's really just noodles. I also favor one side of my body (ex: I eat all the gross fruit snacks on the left side of my mouth and all the good fruit snacks on the right side). I'm weird and he's slowly learning that haha 

What else has happened in the last 100 days since we got married?

I have had people ask me, "How's married life?" WAY more than I did 101 days ago . . . haha probably more than 100 times, too. 

I gained another role. I'm all sorts of things! Daughter, sister, cousin, student, employee, etc. Now I've added "wife" to that list! It's crazy how much pressure I've put on myself because of that title. Now it feels like I have to be able to do everything . . . because that's what wives and mothers do, right? They know everything and are capable of everything. At least that's what it seems like when you're looking from the outside. When you're on the inside, though, it often feels like you don't know and can't do anything (at least that's my experience). I thank God every day for a husband who makes me feel like I'm good enough. 

On a similar note, I've tried to come up with every cute idea out there to implement in our marriage and life. I convinced Stefen that we needed to cut a piece off of the christmas tree so we could make it into an ornament and write "Our 1st Christmas" on it. 

For the last two day's I've been trying to figure out where I could buy a 100 pc puzzle for us to put together tonight  (100 days, 100 pieces, so cute, right?). Turns out when you don't think about it till Saturday and the event is on Monday, the only puzzles you can find are one of a frog and one with some StarWars character on it. Then I thought I could make my own puzzle! YEAH RIGHT! So I abandoned the puzzle idea… we'll try again at 500 days (500 pieces) or 1000 days (1000 pieces) haha 

Anyway! It's been a really good 100 days. Not easy, by any means, but good. I can't wait to spend many more days married to my wonderful husband :)

Most of my blog posts have a lesson or something . . . a "Note to Self." This one is a little different, I think. Maybe the lesson is to be proud of your accomplishments . . . like being married for 100 days and not killing each other yet! ;) haha

The Mormon Cliché

Note to Self:

Remember how you planned to go to school, date around, just have some fun? And then, you met him. And now you're a Mormon Cliché.

So . . . life happens. Last year when I went to college I was in a much different place than I am now. I was 18 years old, leaving home for the first time. I was leaving behind all of the people and things and places I knew, to completely start over. And I had a plan . . . well, I thought I did. 

Basically I was just going to go to school. Hopefully get a job just for some extra cash, but my scholarship covered almost everything. I just wanted to have a chill year, you know? Make some friends, go out on some dates, really just have a good time. I didn't want to get serious with anyone and there was NO WAY I was even going to think about getting married . . .

And now I've become a Mormon Cliché.

Here I am, 19 years old, a ring on my finger, and a wedding in 30 days. Yup. People think I'm crazy. To be perfectly honest, sometimes I think I'm crazy. Maybe I am, maybe we all are. Who can say what is crazy and what isn't? Don't worry, I won't get all philosophical (I wouldn't know how) but it's just a thought. 

Stefen and I are definitely crazy. Separate and most certainly together. I'll be the first to tell you that Stefen is not the guy I thought I was going to marry. Don't worry, I'm not going to cause marital strife before the marriage even begins by telling you this, because he'll admit that I'm not the girl he thought he was going to marry either. So, surprise! What's really crazy, though, is that we are exactly what each other needed. 

In a lot of ways we are very, very opposite. At the same time, we're the same in all the right ways. We balance each other out in so many aspects. And, most importantly, we are ourselves together. We have been from the beginning and that's what's gotten us this far. Stefen has broken down almost every wall I've ever built (and I've built a lot). He's seen me at my highest and my lowest for sure. As cliché as it sounds, he truly knows me better than I know myself. 

Don't get me wrong, some days he drives me insane and I know I frustrate him in ways I'm sure he never imagined possible. We disagree and have arguments. We are imperfect people. And that is OK. 

Almost a year ago I wrote a blog post about the kinds of boys you'll come across in your life: the good, the bad, and the ugly. And then, I added one more category:

"And that category is "him." And he's different. Because he's not going to be perfect . . . but he's going to be perfect for you. He's going to do things that drive you crazy. He's going to say things that you wouldn't believe. He's going to make you listen to his music in the car. He's going to like to do things that you may despise. But at the same time, he's going to be there for you in ways no one ever has before. He's going to somehow say and do all the right things when you need them. He's going to make you laugh and smile. He's going to be the reason for your good days and the one you go to on your bad days. He's the one who knows every little thing about you and will never take advantage of that. He'll be the one that when he leaves you miss him like crazy, but it still feels like he's there with you. He'll make you want to be a better you, and help you to do that. He'll support you in everything. He'll help you grow and learn. He'll watch chick flicks with you. And even better, he'll let you watch Bride Day on TLC. ;)

The hardest part about "him" though, is that he can change. Because we change. There can be a "him" at one point in your life and then you grow up and change and now "him" is someone else. But if this is true, then how do we ever find that special someone? I'll tell you what I believe:

I believe that someday you will find a "him" that is different from the other ones. This one is different in the way that when you change . . . you change TOGETHER. And in this way, he can be your "him" and you can be his "her" forever."

Ladies and gentleman, I know that I have found my "forever him," and I pray every day that I'm becoming the woman who deserves to be his "forever her." 

Maybe I am crazy to get married at 19 . . . but I've learned that crazy doesn't have to be a bad thing. It can be a completely wonderful adventure if you let it be. 

God has a plan and I know that this is part of His plan for me. I can't tell you why, but I can tell you how grateful I am. I can tell you how perfectly imperfect this last year has been. I can tell you that none of my plans worked out, and I am so happy that they didn't. Finally, I can tell you that I have no problem whatsoever being a Mormon Cliché.



THIS POST WAS INSPIRED BY KELSEY BERTEAUX'S ARTICLE: http://ldsliving.com/story/76536-married-at-19-worth-every-lost-experience

THANK YOU BETHANY FOR SHARING THIS WITH ME :)

ANOTHER GOOD ARTICLE BY A TEENAGE BRIDE: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/natasha-craig/what-i-gave-up-the-day-i-_b_5001583.html

God's plan and timing

Note to Self:

Trust in God's plan and in His timing. 

You'd think I would have learned this by now! And I guarantee I still haven't really learned it. Boo. In fact, this is something that I've touched on in a previous post: http://notetoselfcollection.blogspot.com/2012/10/make-goals-not-plans.html

The truth is, this concept is one of the hardest things for me to grasp. Truth? I HATE NOT BEING IN CONTROL. Control keeps me calm and makes me feel safe. Another truth? I am RARELY in control.  

**Spoiler Alert**

You can expect at least one more post about this type of thing in the future because I'm sure there's a lot of change coming in the next year or so. 

ANYWAY!

This summer I moved back home from school to save money (no rent), help my family move, and get summer job to help pay for school and everything else. So, for the last month or two, I've been looking for a job. What a fun ride that is, huh? One place never got back to me, another wasn't actually hiring, a third place hired someone before I could get away from school to apply. And each time I was just as disappointed. But I AM learning. Every night I added a new phrase to my prayers along the lines of: 

"Help me to be patient. If this job isn't what You have in store for me, I pray that I won't get it. I pray that I will be open to the opportunities that I trust you will give me. Help me to be humble to recognize when the right thing comes along and help me to recognize Your hand in my life." 

I am slowly learning and accepting that what God has planned for me is so much better than what I could plan for myself. And my summer job is just another example of this. 

A few weeks ago I applied to work for an organization called Rise. They work with a range of kids who need a little extra help - whether they have different mental or physical disabilities, or are in foster care, etc. After some help from my amazing friends/references, I got a call a few days later saying that I got the job. Today I finished my second training with them (it was "Western"themed . . . no big deal). And I can honestly say, before even my true first day on the job, that this is one of the best things that has happened to me. I'm sure I can't even imagine all of the blessings that will come from working with these kids and I cannot wait to do all that I can to be a blessing in their lives as well. 

The point is, this wouldn't have happened if I had gotten one of those other jobs. Working in a bakery, or an ice cream place, or whatever other typical "summer jobs" I could have found. But I trusted in God. I trusted that He had a better plan for me than I had for myself and that if I humbled myself enough to follow it, I wouldn't regret it. And I know that I won't. 

So, as hard as it is for me, I know that I need to trust in God's plan and timing. Because He knows me better than I know myself and He knows exactly what I need in my life. I struggle with this nearly every day, but it's something that I'm constantly working on. 

And whoever you are reading this, I know that He has a plan for you too. And it's amazing. And you have more potential than you could ever imagine. So trust in Him. His plan. His timing. It is so, so worth it. 

Sometimes there's nothing you can do

Note to Self:

Sometimes there really isn't anything you can do. And that just sucks. 

I'm a fixer. Either I fix things or I help other people fix things. That's just my mindset. Give me a problem and I'll figure out how to solve it. I guess that's the "engineer" in me--for those of you who don't know, my dad is an engineer and everyone expected me to follow in his footsteps. I hate engineering and math and science, but I'm fairly good at it. Anyway . . . I've always kind of made it my job to fix things. Somehow it seemed that I always attracted problems . . . whether it be things or people. And then I made it my job to do what I could to help out. And I love doing it. I'm going into psychology because I want to help people . . . and it's a psychologist's job to help people help themselves which is even better. 

Well, in the last couple years especially, I've learned that sometimes . . . there really isn't anything I can do. I can try and try and try again . . . but it doesn't make a difference. And that just sucks. 

Sometimes there isn't an answer. Sometimes two plus two just doesn't equal four . . . it just doesn't. Sometimes people need to figure it out on their own and any "help" you try to give them will really only do harm. And sometimes there's nothing anyone can do... it just is what it is. 

This has been one of the life lessons that's been the hardest for me to learn. . . but also one of the most rewarding. I used to beat my self up about not being able to help someone or fix something. And yeah, sometimes I still do. It still kills me to sit back and do nothing . . . but sometimes that's all you can do. 

Sometimes you have to sit on the sidelines. Be there in case the people you love come to you for help and give you something you can actually do. Sometimes you just have to sit on the sidelines, pray, and trust that God knows what he is doing. Trust that, somehow, everything will work out. 

I know this is short . . . and kind of vague. But I don't know what else to say.  I just feel like I needed to say this. Because it's something that I am personally working on learning . . . and I figure I can't be the only one. Thanks everyone!